Memoirs of a Tantrika

The Official Blog for Charu, founder of Embody Tantra

My Apologies to the Men…

To all the men out there… I must apologize.  It is true that over the last several months my focus has appeared to be on women.  I am sorry.

The truth is that I am cooking up something extraordinary for men, it is a project that is very close to my heart and I can’t wait to share it with you.  Problem is that I have had to admit to myself recently that I am not super-woman.  I know, it was as shocking for me as it is for you.  And because I am not super-woman I can’t do it all.  I have had to postpone my FREE seminar for men AND my special men’s home-study course until early next year.

I promise you, I am just as bummed as you are, but what I know is that it is going to be amazing and by trying to squeeze it in before year’s end I was not going to be able to show up with my best… and that is of the utmost importance to me.

So men, hang in there please! I do love you, I love working with you and I have much to share with you.

I would also like to add that the last several months have taught me so much about men.  For whatever reason, most of my coaching clients have been men lately, more specifically men in relationship.  What I have learned and seen in man has changed me.  I have seen dedication, love, devotion, passion.  I have seen the side of man that woman is waiting for.  And it is so beautiful.

I have also seen in myself and in woman, all of the many ways we play into a dynamic that keeps man from showing up in this way with us.  When he does not show up strongly, we feel justified in not surrendering and opening up to him.  When we don’t open up, we perpetuate the cycle of pain between man and woman that has been going on for hundreds of years.

Have you experienced this?  Men? Women?  I would love to hear your thoughts.  Feel free to leave them as comments here on the blog…I promise I do actually read every one.

P.S. I am beginning a monthly meditation teleclass THIS MONTH… open to both men and women.  And, the first month is FREE!  Men, if you are ready to dive in now, check it out


  Sean wrote @

“When he does not show up strongly…”

What do you expect when society treats men’s sexuality as expendable and based entirely on uncontrolled aggression? It’s the polar opposite of the helpless waif female that needs to be fed.

Just as men do need to ‘show up’, women need to give a safe place to arrive. Otherwise, yes, we are just perpetuating the same cycles of repression we’ve seen since the beginning of time.

  Dan wrote @

Both people must show up and be present….i look back an cry over the times i was not present or was and she was not… much was missed because we were not present in the moment, in our bodies… each other..god that hurts…………never again…….presence or no go…….

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