Memoirs of a Tantrika

The Official Blog for Charu, founder of Embody Tantra

*Couples* How Are You Spending Your Time? A Simple Exercise…

Most of us put our sex life as the last thing on our “to do” list. Once we have worked all day, finished our tasks, spent time with the kids, watched our favorite shows, are full after dinner, and are totally exhausted – then its time for sex. What if you went to work like this? You wouldn’t be employed for long. How do we expect our relationships to grow and flourish and for that to be reflected in our sex life when we begin at such a disadvantage?

We cannot even BEGIN to embark on our tantric journey until we have looked at our priorities and have made a conscious choice to make time for each other.

Here is a simple exercise to help us get out of this cycle and begin this exploration:

(You will need a pen & paper)

Take a moment with your beloved, sit down and each of you make a list of how you spend your week. Account for each hour, include sleeping, eating, lovemaking, watching TV, talking on the phone, working, driving….anything that you do most every day and how many hours you spend doing it. Be as honest and precise as possible.

When you have finished share your list with your partner. Go over your lists together…does anything surprise you about how you have been spending your time?

How much time are you dedicating to each other? To your lovemaking?

… I thought so.  Chances are, the answer is ‘way too little’.

This is a great first step, now that you have some clarity, you can begin to make conscious choices.

How much time would you like to be investing in your relationship?  And this time is separate from time you spend with friends or family… how much intimate alone time can you commit to?

I recommend making a commitment to spend at least 3 hours each month together NOT at a movie, NOT out to dinner… spending intimate time loving one another.   (Seriously, this is a minimum, you would be AMAZED at how many couples are not even investing this small amount of time).  Over the next few months I will continue to share with you tools / exercises / games which will support you on these ‘intimate dates’ each month.

AND I offer my monthly event, The Easiest & BEST Date-Night EVER! for those who want to make the process effortless in your life that is already overwhelming.  No creativity necessary.  All you have to do is show up and you will experience the most bonding, joyful, delicious evening EVER!  The class itself is 2 hours so you still have 1 hour of your ‘intimate date’ to go home and fully relish all of the sweetness of the evening by integrating it into your lovemaking.  Yum!

The next event is THIS SUNDAY 9.6.09! Sign up NOW because the Early Bird ends TONIGHT!  click here to register.  See below for more information.

…here is what some other couples have shared:

“Finding tantra was like finding a long lost friend, it felt very natural and normal for my boyfriend and I to be with one another in a more sensitive, present, meditative, energetic, and exploratory way but no one had given us permission before. It was in us! But we needed someone to show us the way.

We had a huge break through after just one meeting. Not just huge – gigantic!

Our relationship changed forever after just one session. The work touched us so deeply, so quickly, so powerfully, we could not believe it.”



The Easiest & BEST Date-Night Ever!
Learn How Tantric Meditation Can Enhance Your Love-Life…

Sept 6th . 6-8pm . The Hub, Santa Monica

$100 per couple . $75 if you register by MIDNIGHT TONIGHT

click here to register

*every class is DIFFERENT!  come EVERY month!*

Honor your partnership by spending a special evening connecting and sharing your deep gratitude and love for one another.   Not only will The Easiest & BEST Date Night be more adventurous than your typical dinner and a movie…it also has the power to change the dynamic of your relationship, giving you all of the tools you need to begin to approach lovemaking and all aspects of your relating in a new and ‘tantric’ way.

In a long-term relationship it can be difficult to make sure that you are consistently nourishing your love, connection and sex-life…this special evening offers a different Tantric meditation experience each month so you can effortlessly add a new dimension to your relating on a monthly basis.

By attending, you are taking an important step towards transforming your sex life, and perhaps even more importantly, you are taking a step towards an intimacy that few couples allow themselves to experience. This intimacy shifts the texture of everything you do in life and allows you to experience what you have truly been longing for in partnership.

This class is literally a step-by-step guide to support you in learning how to:

  • free blocks in your own body that are hindering your capacity for pleasure
  • deeply and intimately connect with your partner in totally ‘out of the box’ (no pun intended) ways
  • learn a simple ritual that will connect you and your partner on a completely new level….one that can immediately be put into practice when you make love

*there is NO nudity or sexual contact in the class*

Looking forward to seeing you there!

The BEST Date- Night / Intro to Tantra for Couples
September 6th 6-8pm . Santa Monica
$100 per couple / $75 if registered before Sept 1st
to register:

*I am working on recording these so the audio will be accessible to people who are not in the LA area!

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