Memoirs of a Tantrika

The Official Blog for Charu, founder of Embody Tantra

Archive for June, 2009

Everything You Have Ever Heard About Tantra is a Lie.

In the West, Tantra has sadly come to be known purely as a sexual practice. It conjures up images of orgies and casual encounters in the name of something sacred.

Nothing could be farther from the truth. Tantra is a path of meditation above all things. An offering of tools to support you in becoming more aware, conscious and alive. To bring you home to the present moment. What sets Tantra apart from other meditation paths is that it acknowledges the importance of being alive in a body, being a sexual being. Many modern ‘seekers’ find ourselves ‘top-heavy’, focused on opening our heart, third eye and crown chakras in an effort to experience perpetual bliss.

Problem is that this bliss becomes a way to disconnect, a way to escape. It is not grounded in the body and because of that it cannot be integrated. Tantra recognizes that by using the very energy that makes us human, we can ground ourselves in our humanity and experience the divine here on earth. We can begin to integrate and LIVE a life grounded in a spirituality that is deeply rooted in our bodies.

If you feel that you have a deep connection to your spirituality, but in your very human life you are:

  • not experiencing freedom or abundance in your work
  • feeling isolated
  • in a space where you understand mentally what you ‘should’ do or feel in any given situation, but notice that your relationships with family and friends are not as enlightened as you would like them to be
  • are touching deep fulfillment and aliveness during yoga class, while reading Eckart Tolle, or during your favorite meditation/prayer practice… but are not feeling that kind of fulfillment, pleasure or joy in your relationships and sex life

…then it’s time to dive in and experience what Tantra can offer you

All of my upcoming events offer a safe environment for you to have an embodied experience of your divine nature and begin to integrate that experience into your interactions with others. We will use breath, movement, sound & partner meditations throughout each event, the foundation of the work is one of deep respect and reverence. You don’t have to work for years to receive the benefit that comes from Tantra, shifts made from this space are directly integrated into how you live your life. You will find that you feel even closer to the teachings and practices that are important to you.

Through the Tantras (techniques) you will begin to let go of the ‘shoulds’ and wake up to allowing life to evolve. When you are in connection with your body and in harmony with life, when you recognize the divine on a visceral level with those you interact with, you have moved beyond ‘trying to live in alignment with your highest self’ because you have simply remembered and embodied both your divinity and your humanity.

What a relief.

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Upcoming Events with Charu

Beginner Tantra for Couples

July 5th 6-8:30pm . Culver City $100 / $75 if registered before July 1st

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Tantra Puja Ritual

July 19th . Santa Monica $60 per person / $50 if registered before July 11th

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And if you just can’t get enough of Tantra (like me) here are some events coming up this weekend, with my beloved teachers and friends hosting…

with Dawn Cartwright

Tantra Experience

Friday night 6.26 . 7:30pm . Santa Monica

with Psalm Isadora

full-day Red & White Tantra Event

Saturday 6.27 . 10am- 6pm

The #1 Reason Why Men are Not Satisfying Their Women.

In our society, most men are experiencing a severe disconnect from penis to heart.  This is for several reasons.

1. Our entire culture is built on having shame around our sexuality ~ it is a bit controversial, but my perspective is this:  our sexual energy is nothing more than our life-force energy.  It is the energy of sex that brings life into the world.  When you think of it that way, you can begin to come into contact with the sheer power and essence of natural sexuality, rather than our learned and ‘perverted’ sexuality.  When I say ‘perverted’ I mean it in the true sense of the word, not as it has come to be understood… a perversion comes from an energy which is repressed, the repression builds these blocks in the body (which we spoke about last week) the energy then has to warp in order to continue to flow through the body.  This warped, not freely flowing energy manifests as disconnected behavior.  Behavior which is desperately trying to compensate for this very painful disconnect inside.  The disconnect from the sex to the heart.  The disconnect from the love and acceptance of ourselves.

One of the many reasons for this comes from centuries and centuries of world leaders needing or wanting to control society.  It is easiest to control people when they are disconnected to their true inner power.  When they are in fear and believe that they need something or someone outside of themselves to tell them who they are.  This is why we have been indoctrinated with such shame around our sexuality and especially this idea that it is unholy in some way.

What if you being connected to your sexuality in a genuine way, expressing your deepest love and devotion when you made love… what if that was actually an expression of the divine, rather than something repulsive, wrong or perverse.

What could be more beautiful, more loving, more in praise of this life experience than making love?

By beginning to give yourself permission to express and enjoy your sexuality, and shifting your context from believing in a deep and unconscious way that you are bad and wrong for your natural human desires, you begin to open the door for more pleasure and satisfaction in your own life and lovemaking.  You unlock the door of the prison within that has been hanging heavy for many generations.

Simply unlocking this door, giving yourself permission to be human, to fully enjoy your human sexuality, you are making way for more fulfilling lovemaking.  Often a shift in thinking about this (with the support of the meditations) can clear blocks in the body which are resulting in inability to maintain or achieve erection or premature ejaculation.  The weight of the guilt and shame we all feel for being human is the cause of much of our inability to show up sexually the way we would like to.

It is possible to fuck without the connection from sex to heart.  Both men and women have been coming from this place when they have sex.  Sex like this can fulfill the basic biological need, but it is not deeply fulfilling.  Lovemaking that is deeply fulfilling comes first from a connection within, a trust in yourself, a knowing that you do not need validation from your lover (or anyone else) in order to feel whole. From this place of being whole within, you can begin to truly connect to your woman.

Women are longing for this heart and sex connection.  More than any technique that a man can perform on us, we are longing to be truly ‘met’ by him.  We want to feel his confidence and strength.  We want to feel that with every stroke he is actually loving us with his penis.  Most men have no idea how to do this due to the dis-connect and disembodiment of the penis.

This is one of the reasons why it is so important to begin to touch your penis and create a relationship beyond one that is purely to provoke orgasm… you need to bring life and blood-flow back, energy back into the penis.  You need to create an innocent relationship with it in order to truly understand it’s power.  Look at a child.  Little boys are fascinated with their penis, they want to touch it and talk about it, they are completely innocent within this discovery.  And they are right to be fascinated!  This part of the body is not only rich with nerve-endings and pleasure, but when aroused grows and actually fits perfectly into the beautiful opening in woman, and at the peak of arousal it releases a substance without which life would cease to exist.  Seriously.  This is magic.  This is a miracle.  A miracle that we have become accustomed to ignoring or taking for granted.  When you allow yourself to come back into contact with that fascination, that reverence for the magic of the act that brings life into the world, the way you make love changes forever.

Even more importantly, beyond the biology, when the penis is connected to the heart, when it is fully alive and embodied, it has the power to awaken woman to her own body, her own aliveness.

I have shared this information with many men over the years and some will say to me, ‘but the women I am with don’t want this, they don’t want connection, they just want me to fuck them’.

To this I say, I understand, not every woman is ready to allow herself to be this vulnerable to man.  We are holding our own fears, our own shame, our own protection and shut-down.  Because of the shut-down you have been experiencing in your own body, you may have been attracted to women who did not want to go beyond their comfort zone.  Opening up in this way takes great courage on the part of both the man and the woman.  And with that courage comes great rewards.  What you thought was possible in lovemaking you come to find is only a small portion of what is available to you.  Not every woman will allow herself to surrender to what you will be bringing to the bedroom, trust that when you are coming from a deeply authentic place you are inviting her to meet you.  Be patient with her, let her know that she can trust you, know that you desire a deeper connection with her and she may surprise you.  Be brave enough in your process to stand strong even if she does not understand you or wants to make you wrong.  A man who knows who he is and does not compromise to please his woman is VERY SEXY!

Father’s Day…the perfect gift.

Father’s Day is just around the corner!  For so many men, being a Father has played an essential role in discovering who they are as a man.  There are few things more beautiful than seeing a man come to life as he is engaged with his children.  This provokes in me a genuine desire to honor the man who is showing up for his children, loving wholeheartedly, and rediscovering himself throughout the journey.

It can be very hard to find the perfect gift that truly reflects your gratitude… one that goes beyond the beautiful handmade cards the kids put together, one that is about the connection between you and your man… the man who shares this journey of parenting with you.  The man who you may not always make the time to honor or nourish because of the responsibilities you have taken on as parents.

I have created the perfect gift which will not only honor your man, but it will rekindle the passion and desire within your relationship.  For more information on how you can gift your man this Father’s Day with a special evening that he will never forget, check out

On the site you will find a very detailed video testimonial of one couple who I created this Ultimate Man Gift for, and just to give you an idea of the response you can expect, here are a few notes from men  immediately after their Ultimate Gift evening:
“OMFG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Unbelievable! Amazing. Thank you!”

“It was INCREDIBLE the love of my life gave me an AMAZING mindblowing gift with the help of Charu”

“The evening was beyond “bliss”. Mindblowing, Unforgettable. Something I’ll remember and cherish for the rest of my life. Thank you.”

I am truly inspired by the great Fathers of the world and I look forward to letting them know just how special they are by supporting you in gifting your man what he is deeply longing for… acknowledgment, love and passion.
in love,


Tantric Awakenings…

I wanted to share with the world a beautiful poem, written by one of my students after a very powerful private session.

He sent this to me with gratitude and I asked him if I could share it with the world so that everyone else out there who is longing to re-awaken can hear the call.

… I too am so grateful.  When openings like this happen in my presence it is a great gift.


in love,



Five long years lost at sea

I had built my life on an Island of sand

On angry words and broken commitments

The world I built crumbled beneath my feet and there was no way out

My soul drowned in the deep, dark, cold waters of despair

And it was there that this demoralized man wandered aimlessly

In pain and anger the path of struggle laid bare

A vacant man, unrecognizable to himself

But something happened

Something changed today,

I began to feel again

The warm tears of grief for my child whom I thought had died are rolling down my face

That tender heart, those hopeful dreams, a sense of wonder began to stir again

A long forgotten, cherished part of me came alive today

I began to breathe in the essence of a life familiar yet foreign

A life I so yearned for but didn’t know anymore

I began to recognize me today

I began to accept me today

And it hurts so much

So much grief for being absent all those years

I missed you

I needed you

I am overwhelmed by the miracle of having my life back

Suddenly I’m standing on solid ground

I can feel the foundation of purpose beneath my feet

The time has come to wake and own my life

I want to live!! I want my life!!

Thank you God for the dawn

I never thought I would see this day

Please God tell me I am here to stay

Please don’t ever let me lose me again

My life is precious

Thank you God

Thank you for the dawn