Memoirs of a Tantrika

The Official Blog for Charu, founder of Embody Tantra

Archive for May, 2009

Throw Away Your Self-Help Books

Lately, I have noticed that I have been rather negative.  Thinking negative, sludgy thoughts, speaking of the things that are not going the way I would like in a negative way, and in many ways hanging out and bathing in this well of negativity.

It occurred to me that I have probably been creating a negative cloud around me and I should refer back to tools such as; the power of ‘thinking positive’.  Problem is, that whenever I consider tools around ‘positive thinking’ or ‘gratitude’ it makes me want to vomit.  Seriously, something just does not feel right about it.  Something is off.

When I have an internal ‘yes’ for something there is no stopping me.  I can feel it in my body, in my teeth, how right it is and the universe moves in order to support me in that yes.

I often feel this ‘yes’ when I meet a teacher who I resonate with, a person I want to spend more time with, a work partner… and, of course, I feel this yes for Tantra.

Yesterday, within my sludge of negativity, I had a fantastic day of delicious meditation.  I began in the afternoon with my meditation on the goddess Tripura Bhairavi, which I learned from a recent workshop with Parvathi and have taken on as a 40 day practice to embody the qualities of this goddess in my life… I then gave a private session where my client and I delved into Bio-energetic techniques to build the charge of life force and arousal in our bodies before allowing it to flow through us… and finally, I attended Dawn Cartwright’s Friday Tantra Experience class where we awakened to the Sutra ‘Unminding Mind, Be in the Middle, until…’

By the time I arrived at class I was already buzzing.  Within the first five minutes I felt something crack open inside of me and I was alive with absolute love and gratitude… I did not think this, it was an actual physical sensation.  I felt my absolute devotion to Tantra on a cellular level and my love for Dawn, for my beloved, for all my friends… and even for the strangers who shared in this evening with me. Ahhhh.

…And suddenly I knew why I feel sick when I think about positive thinking or gratitude lists…

What I am longing for, what I know to be real and true in my body, is so far beyond my negative thoughts, so far beyond changing my behavior or thinking in any way, what I am longing for isn’t even on the same planet as these concepts.  What I am longing for is simple, it is effortless, it is absolute reality and it awakens through my body.  Once I touch it, everything is transformed.  Negative thoughts are not a ‘problem’ because the story has dissolved.  I don’t need to ‘think positive’ or ‘be grateful’ because I am fully embodied.  The wholeness that I experience is in itself a radiant love and gratitude, and I don’t need to name it.

This is what I am holding for.  This is what I surrender everything to.  This is what Tantra has given me.

Ultimate Foreplay…

My beloved returned from an all-night sweat lodge on Sunday, warm and open.  He was so gentle, so melted and so alive that it was nearly impossible to hold back around him, although some part of me seemed determined to try.  I found myself running into a dangerous mindfuck which creates distance between me and man.

…and he just kept glowing and loving.  In his radiance I felt my resistance melting away and I was transported to a magical land… the present.  Here I was gifted with a love that I am never sure if I am deserving of, here I find myself constantly in dynamic new territory beyond knowing how to ‘be’, here it is demanded of me that I show up only in love and here I experience what I know to be the simple pleasure of being alive; but for most it is a pleasure beyond what they dare to dream.

And this proves a point I often find myself called on to share, only one of you has to change.  Yes, only one of you, and I recommend that you begin with you.  In this case, I lucked out, my beloved made a shift within himself and it was so fundamental, so profound that I could not help, but meet him in the moment.

I find the same thing happens when I am the one who has shifted.  Always.

It’s in the realm of like attracts like.  A profound opening inside of you will call that forth in the heart of your beloved, or vice versa.

When my heart opens, my body opens.  I think this is something that is often overlooked or misunderstood by men.  When my man is showing up for himself, when he is growing in his own way and when that power he finds within himself overflows and he showers me with his love, even when we are not in bed… it is so fucking hot.  Few things call to the heart of woman (or at least this woman) than a man in his power loving, loving, and loving her.  Loving her when she wakes, loving her when she sleeps, loving her when she dances, loving her when she cries… I would consider all of this essential foreplay.  Each moment feeling his love massages me and creates a sweet opening to take him inside of me.

Once inside, I can begin to unfold even further as I challenge myself to trust.  It is a challenge because I, like many women, have been raised to believe that I should never surrender to man, never let my guard down.  And yet, in honoring that way of thinking I have denied myself the true union which I long for more than anything else.

Tantra, Break-ups & FREE Stuff… Oh My!

Exciting news! I have been working with my dear friend Lisa Steadman, relationship coach extraordinaire and best selling author, to create some special courses specifically looking at how Tantra can support women who are experiencing a breakup. It was an immediate ‘click’ for us to work together because of how powerful Tantric meditation can be to support you in creating a strong, loving and authentic relationship with yourself, which is a key part of the process when experiencing a broken heart.

Together Lisa and I created a special teleclass ‘How to Heal Your Heart with Tantra’. Discover how tantra can heal your heart and ease any post-breakup burdens lingering in your body. In this audio interview, I explain what Tantra is, why it can help you and teach a simple exercise using guided meditation, breath and movement techniques to help you re-discover the wisdom of the body and uncover deeper and deeper levels of forgiveness, healing, and peace.

The best part is that you can have this audio class for FREE! Hooray!

Here’s how:

Lisa has a brand new book coming out today that will seriously rock your world if you’re going through a breakup or struggling to heal and move on from past heartbreak. She is offering her brand new workbook along with a bundle of incredible bonus gifts (including How to Heal Your Heart with Tantra) worth 100 times the investment — and you can have it ALL for less than $16!

But to get the workbook AND bonus gifts, you must act now. She’s only making this offer for the first 24 hours.

To get all the juicy details, go here:

www.itsabreakupnotabreakdownworkbook.com

Thank you all so much for your support as Embody Tantra grows and expands! Of course, Tantra is good for a lot more than just helping you through a breakup… let us know what is coming up in your life and areas where you would like to learn more about how Tantra can support you!

Why not start by attending one of this month’s upcoming Tantra events? (see below for details)

in love,

Charu

‘The Longing Puja’

May Tantra Puja Ritual Saturday May 16th 6-10pm (singles and couples welcome) $60 per person/ $50 if you register before MIDNIGHT TONIGHT! click here to register http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=3521066

What is a Tantra Puja?

A Puja is a prayer. In Tantra, our prayer is recognizing the divine in every human being, our temple is the body. In a Puja ritual each man will have the opportunity to partner with each woman for a simple exercise or meditation. The Tantric meditations use breath, movement, sound, and guided meditation to enrich each meeting throughout the ceremony. Attending Couples may choose to work solely with each other. *there is no nudity or sexual contact in the class

‘The Pathway to Conscious Relationship & Lovemaking’

*a special teleclass for women

Many of us have never been made love to in the way that we intuitively know is possible. We assume that our lover should be able to show us the way…

Sadly, because of this we often find ourselves with lovers who can only meet us where we are at emotionally, mentally & physically and we never experience what lies beyond our personal decided limitations. In order to receive what we are truly longing for in a partnership and to experience the kind of lovemaking that is deeply nourishing and bonding we need to begin to create that pathway within ourselves first.

Join Charu on this special Tele-class where you will be guided into a deep meditation where to meet your own inner-lover and begin to discover the true potential that lovemaking holds as a tool for healing and transformation. The best part is that by practicing this meditation, not only are you creating a space to be met by the lover of your dreams, but you are also learning to love and embrace yourself in such a way that ultimately all neediness dissolves.

You will discover a feeling of completeness and an experience of pleasure from within. From this place, you are empowered to choose a partner who can truly show up for you rather than accepting scraps from those who cannot truly see or appreciate who you are.

May 18th 7-8pm

*Don’t worry if you can’t make it to the LIVE teleseminar / everyone who registers will receive a recording of the meditation to practice with! $59.97 / Register by WEDNESDAY for $29.95 click here to register http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4337539 be one of the first 10 to register and receive: *FREE 20 Minute Phone Consultation with Charu ($42 value)

Beginner Tantra for Couples

June 11th 7pm-9:30pm $100 per couple/ $75 when registered before MAY 21st click here to register

http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4317052

Honor your partnership by spending a special evening connecting and sharing your deep gratitude and love for one another.

Not only will ‘Beginner Tantra for Couples’ class be more adventurous than your typical dinner and a movie…it also has the power to change the dynamic of your relationship, giving you all of the tools you need to begin to approach lovemaking and all aspects of your relating in a new and ‘tantric’ way. In a long-term relationship it can be difficult to make sure that you are consistently nourishing your love, connection and sex-life…

Beginner Tantra for Couples offers a different Tantric meditation experience each month so you can effortlessly add a new dimension to your relating on a monthly basis. By attending ‘Beginner Tantra for Couples/ Redefining Orgasm’ you are taking an important step towards transforming your sex life, and perhaps even more importantly, you are taking a step towards an intimacy that few couples allow themselves to experience. This intimacy shifts the texture of everything you do in life and allows you to experience what you have truly been longing for in partnership.

This class is literally a step-by-step guide to support you in learning how to: * free blocks in your own body that are hindering your capacity for pleasure * deeply and intimately connect with your partner in totally ‘out of the box’ (no pun intended) ways * learn a simple ritual that will connect you and your partner on a completely new level….one that can immediately be put into practice when you make love Looking forward to seeing you there!

in love,

Charu

The Longing Puja

I am looking forward to seeing you all this Saturday at the next Puja Ritual. This month, I have decided to explore ‘Longing’ through this Tantric ritual.

Come face to face with your hearts deepest longing in this sensual Puja.

We all have secret longings that guide our lives. Bringing voice to what we are longing for makes way for it to manifest as our reality.

This creative Puja supports us in discovering our essential longing in life and then takes us through a journey of how that manifests in relationship. We will use simple exercises and guided partner meditations to take a deeper look at how we experience the first moments with a new beloved, through many stages of love including; the heartache that holds us back from total surrender, through to forgiveness, and into deepening.

This journey shows us how our sexuality can blossom as we create the bridge between how we have been showing up in relationship, through to discovering a new way of relating with consciousness and awareness of our partner and ourselves.

May Tantra Puja Ritual

Saturday May 16th 6-10pm (singles and couples welcome)
$60 per person/ $50 if you register before MIDNIGHT TONIGHT!
click here to register
http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=3521066

What is a Tantra Puja?

A Puja is a prayer. In Tantra, our prayer is recognizing the divine in every human being, our temple is the body. In a Puja ritual each man will have the opportunity to partner with each woman for a simple exercise or meditation. The Tantric meditations use breath, movement, sound, and guided meditation to enrich each meeting throughout the ceremony. Attending Couples may choose to work solely with each other.

*there is no nudity or sexual contact in the class

Women’s Transformation Event

Sunday May 17th 1pm- 7pm

$150 / $100 if registered BY MIDNIGHT TONIGHT!

323.363.3135 / charu@embodytantra.com

http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=1963425

Are you ready to allow Tantra to support you in experiencing the fullness of life and take you into new territory?

This weekend I have a special workshop coming up for women.

The essence of this workshop is about supporting us as women to truly listen to our inner voice. We have lost contact with our intuition and it is the key to our freedom.

We will learn how this inner voice is calling us to experience more pleasure and continually letting us know what we need in order to feel our own bodies more.

The meditation at the heart of this workshop is one of my absolute favorites. Every time I have done it I have experienced deep transformation which has affected every aspect of my life including love, sex, money, joy and self-acceptance.

This is a day of truly understanding what it is to surrender to a ‘yes’ to life. What is often misunderstood in our culture is that saying ‘yes’ to our truth and ourselves may mean saying ‘no’ to things in the world around us. Especially as a woman this is a very empowering discovery.

‘The Pathway to Conscious Relationship & Lovemaking’

*a special teleclass for women

Many of us have never been made love to in the way that we intuitively know is possible. We assume that our lover should be able to show us the way…

Sadly, because of this we often find ourselves with lovers who can only meet us where we are at emotionally, mentally & physically and we never experience what lies beyond our personal decided limitations.

In order to receive what we are truly longing for in a partnership and to experience the kind of lovemaking that is deeply nourishing and bonding we need to begin to create that pathway within ourselves first.

Join Charu on this special Tele-class where you will be guided into a deep meditation where to meet your own inner-lover and begin to discover the true potential that lovemaking holds as a tool for healing and transformation.

The best part is that by practicing this meditation, not only are you creating a space to be met by the lover of your dreams, but you are also learning to love and embrace yourself in such a way that ultimately all neediness dissolves. You will discover a feeling of completeness and an experience of pleasure from within. From this place, you are empowered to choose a partner who can truly show up for you rather than accepting scraps from those who cannot truly see or appreciate who you are.

May 18th 7-8pm

*Don’t worry if you can’t make it to the LIVE teleseminar / everyone who registers will receive a recording of the meditation to practice with!

$59.97 / Register by WEDNESDAY for $29.95
click here to register
http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4337539
be one of the first 10 to register and receive:
*FREE 20 Minute Phone Consultation with Charu ($42 value)

Beginner Tantra for Couples

June 11th 7pm-9:30pm

$100 per couple/ $75 when registered before MAY 21st
click here to register

http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4317052

Honor your partnership by spending a special evening connecting and sharing your deep gratitude and love for one another. Not only will ‘Beginner Tantra for Couples’ class be more adventurous than your typical dinner and a movie…it also has the power to change the dynamic of your relationship, giving you all of the tools you need to begin to approach lovemaking and all aspects of your relating in a new and ‘tantric’ way.

In a long-term relationship it can be difficult to make sure that you are consistently nourishing your love, connection and sex-life…Beginner Tantra for Couples offers a different Tantric meditation experience each month so you can effortlessly add a new dimension to your relating on a monthly basis.

By attending ‘Beginner Tantra for Couples/ Redefining Orgasm’ you are taking an important step towards transforming your sex life, and perhaps even more importantly, you are taking a step towards an intimacy that few couples allow themselves to experience. This intimacy shifts the texture of everything you do in life and allows you to experience what you have truly been longing for in partnership.

This class is literally a step-by-step guide to support you in learning how to:

* free blocks in your own body that are hindering your capacity for pleasure
* deeply and intimately connect with your partner in totally ‘out of the box’ (no pun intended) ways
* learn a simple ritual that will connect you and your partner on a completely new level….one that can immediately be put into practice when you make love

Looking forward to seeing you there!

True Power

During the past few weeks I have been swept up in the current of my own transformation. I have gone from feeling the world being pulled out from beneath my feet, to great bliss… and I now find myself resting somewhere in the middle.

Much of my journey has been about discovering what the true meaning of ‘power’ is. What is it to be a powerful woman? Can I allow that power to emerge from within by simply revealing my true self? Or am I using and manipulating a distorted concept of power, giving some people a position ‘above’ me and some a position ‘below’ and behaving accordingly rather than resting in my center and being myself.

One thing I am certain of, the few times I have tasted the simple power of being a human, the kind of power that is warm and inclusive, the kind of power that spreads into the atmosphere around me and invites those near to me to discover their true power within, has been experienced through Tantra.

I am so excited to be reaching out once again to my community to offer some juicy opportunities to discover and embrace your power within this month! See below for details…

in love,
Charu

May Tantra Puja Ritual
Saturday May 16th 6-10pm (singles and couples welcome)
$60 per person/ $50 if you register before May 9th!
click here to register
http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=3521066

What is a Tantra Puja?

A Puja is a prayer. In Tantra, our prayer is recognizing the divine in every human being, our temple is the body. In a Puja ritual each man will have the opportunity to partner with each woman for a simple exercise or meditation. The Tantric meditations use breath, movement, sound, and guided meditation to enrich each meeting throughout the ceremony. Attending Couples may choose to work solely with each other.

*there is no nudity or sexual contact in the class

Beginner Tantra for Couples
May 10th 6pm-8:30pm
$75 per couple
click here to register
http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4317052

*Special Class Added to Celebrate MOTHER’S Day!

Honor the mother of your children by spending a special evening connecting and sharing your deep gratitude and love for her. Not only will this Sunday’s ‘Beginner Tantra for Couples’ class be more adventurous than your typical dinner and a movie…it also has the power to change the dynamic of your relationship, giving you all of the tools you need to begin to approach lovemaking and all aspects of your relating in a new and ‘tantric’ way.

In a long-term relationship it can be difficult to make sure that you are consistently nourishing your love, connection and sex-life…Beginner Tantra for Couples offers a different Tantric meditation experience each month so you can effortlessly add a new dimension to your relating on a monthly basis.

By attending ‘Beginner Tantra for Couples/ Redefining Orgasm’ you are taking an important step towards transforming your sex life, and perhaps even more importantly, you are taking a step towards an intimacy that few couples allow themselves to experience. This intimacy shifts the texture of everything you do in life and allows you to experience what you have truly been longing for in partnership.

This class is literally a step-by-step guide to support you in learning how to:

* free blocks in your own body that are hindering your capacity for pleasure
* deeply and intimately connect with your partner in totally ‘out of the box’ (no pun intended) ways
* learn a simple ritual that will connect you and your partner on a completely new level….one that can immediately be put into practice when you make love

Women’s Transformation Event
Sunday May 17th 1pm- 7pm
$150 / $100 if registered before May 9th
323.363.3135 / charu@embodytantra.com
http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=1963425

Are you ready to allow Tantra to support you in experiencing the fullness of life and take you into new territory?

Next weekend I have a special workshop coming up for women.

The essence of this workshop is about supporting us as women to truly listen to our inner voice. We have lost contact with our intuition and it is the key to our freedom.

We will learn how this inner voice is calling us to experience more pleasure and continually letting us know what we need in order to feel our own bodies more.

The meditation at the heart of this workshop is one of my absolute favorites. Every time I have done it I have experienced deep transformation which has effected every aspect of my life including love, sex, money, joy and self-acceptance.

This is a day of truly understanding what it is to surrender to a ‘yes’ to life. What is often misunderstood in our culture is that saying ‘yes’ to our truth and ourselves may mean saying ‘no’ to things in the world around us. Especially as a woman this is a very empowering discovery.

Looking forward to seeing you there!

in love,
Charu