Here’s a couple of quotes that might resonate with you:

“As far as your self-control goes, so goes your freedom” by, Maria Von Eschenbach.

“Adventure is not outside, it is within”
by David Grayson.

True Freedom implies the idea of False Freedoms. It manifests itself as a thirst for a broad range of experience. It is a worthwhile and rewarding pursuit. However, as soon as it infringes upon you from having a depth of experience, then you are no longer free.

You don’t have to lose your identity. Just modify your approach. You are more than the role that you play. The actors, not the roles that they play, are the real stars of the show.
This would require you to deepen your experience in ways in ways that continue to be exciting, by being creative and using variety.

Sounds like you are on the right track. I wish you the best.

What do you expect when society treats men’s sexuality as expendable and based entirely on uncontrolled aggression? It’s the polar opposite of the helpless waif female that needs to be fed.

Just as men do need to ’show up’, women need to give a safe place to arrive. Otherwise, yes, we are just perpetuating the same cycles of repression we’ve seen since the beginning of time.

It is much more honest and direct to point out that women want men to LOVE them, and not just want to fuck them. If you genuinely LOVE someone, you will want to take the time to please them, as well as have a sense of humor about it. And if a woman feels securely LOVED, she will drop her insecurities and relax, accepted.

Too many people jump in bed before they are both in love. In that case insecurities will end up following them to bed. THAT is the problem.

How timely… this really resonated with me. Not just the running away part. But the responsibility part, the growing into something new that you hope is what you want but are not sure. I’m in the same boat actually, facing a whole new ball game as a content creator and not just a service provider. Diving into a whole new world of meetings, agents, and budgets, and wondering if life is sweeter in a simpler incarnation. But I think everyone is right, you have to sit with the fear, sit with the doubt, and meet the uncertainty. Because as tempting as it is, to run toward the simple pleasures… I think if I can find pleasure in these challenges, the capacity for sweetness everywhere expands!

in love,
Charu

I love this post, not only because I relate to so much of it, but also because I admire your choice to be transparent about your process as an entrepreneur. I was trained as an expressive arts therapist, so my grad school education sounds a lot like your acting school- lots of pressure to open up, but I then became a therapist where the rules said I had to hide myself away completely from my clients. This felt wrong. Now as a coach, I love having the chance to choose to show things that are tough and to be honest about what it is to be human, a coach, and an entrepreneur. Thank you so much for being an example of success under that philosophy as well.

ironically, in the producing of our exciting tantric event with you in Sydney, i’ve had less time to actually practice tantra!

i had promised myself i wouldn’t take on any ‘extra projects’ this year, as i’d pretty much burnt out last year; i wanted to just do as much work as needed to pay the bills, and allow myself the keep the rest of my week to breathe, nurture and re-inspire, which is what i had been doing.

…and is what led me to explore tantra and find you!

then this idea to bring you to Australia just seemed to happen by itself – and now i find, between my job (s), my son and producing our event – i’m busy again!

but in reading your post above, i feel that it is a joyous next step in the process – i had indeed been finding peace and bliss in my freedom, but in a way that is just step 1: now, how to integrate that into a life with more responsibility…every time i remember to breathe, let the breathe massage my body from within like you taught me, and check in with my body, i feel better. and i realise that i have never been ‘busy’ before *AND* tried to integrate something like that – it’s new.

thank you for your post – i do indeed feel supported in your sisterhood, and offer the same to you.

the words i can offer back are to remember that when your mind bursts forth with limitless ideas that all seem worthwhile to do, well, they likely are…but they don’t all have to happen this very second. allowing some gestation, some breathing space can often mean many ideas seem to do themself with seemingly no effort and your to-do list gets done itself!

‘Do you have the patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear?
Can you remain unmoving
till the right action arises by itself?’ (Tao)